I pulled this quote from Self-abandonment, Capitalism, and You: When self-abandonment is your default, sometimes you aren’t aware of any other way to be. Your default response is a trauma response. People pleasing is survival. And assimilation is in the air you breathe.
And when it is our default, most times we don’t realize we’re doing it.
We don’t realize we’re people-pleasing or abandoning ourselves or assimilating.
We don’t realize we’re upholding white supremacy or the male dominated narrative or respectability politics...
...how to we fight that muscle memory?
How do we retrain our Body to do it all differently?