Hi friends, during these global stressful times, on top of what you might be moving through locally and individually, it’s hard to just NOT be stressed. The other day, I heard something from Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski that reframed stress for me: “Stress is not bad for you; being stuck is bad for you.”
This reminds me about an analogy I once heard from Sarah Baldwin Coaching. She talked about how when a bird hits a window and falls, it is still. Most people would think it’s dead. But eventually, it starts shaking and gets back up. It was just momentarily stuck.
So the stress itself wasn’t bad for it, but if it stayed stuck in that frozen state, that would have not been so great.
The same goes for us, especially when we get in freeze response or we dissociate. First of all, there is nothing wrong with you - you are not broken. Given everything that has been thrown at us in the last few years, it makes sense that dissociating and freezing helps us conserve our energy. Second of all, this doesn’t mean you’ll stay there forever. What are some resources that get you unstuck? For me, stretching, playing with my kitties, pausing to breathe and feel where my body is in relation to the space I’m in, and REST are beautiful resources lately.
What about you? Hit reply or let me know in the comments.
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